Sep 02 2009
can you make yourself fall in love
I often wonder if I were to look at enough pictures of a random guy, could I start to like him. If I were not initally attracted to him, could I spend enough time with him could I trick my brain into liking him. How long would it take, how hard would you have to work and how patient would you have to be. I think that in the rarest of the cases that this could work…but possibly only for a short while. Would you then have to make the guy over both looks and personality for thte relationship to continue?
Would his annoying flaws start to become cute and how much would you be willing to sacrifice. Being in a relationship is about comprimise and not sacrifice because anyone that makes you sacrifice to be with them is not worth being with them.
If you take the warm fuzzy feeling out when a person falls in love and boil it down to science, I think that you could make yourself fall in love and that you could be in total control of how you feel about someone….but then wheres the fun in that and have you just given up.
prettygirl
I wish I knew how to do that!!! well, actually, I wish I knew how to look beyond the “physical”. There’s a guy that I dated a long long long time ago. he’s a wonderful human being … and we did have sex when we dated…and it was good! But for some reason I couldn’t get past the “hair”. He has hair covering all of his body like a big, thick blanket (and that’s what he calls it
I know it’s totally shallow of me but I really am a nice person! It just was so hard to get over. the only place he doesn’t have about a 2 inch thick portion of hair is on his neck. BUt everywhere else (and I mean everywhere) it’s about 2 or more inches long.
I just recently came back in contact with him and I just LOVE him so much as a person! I feel like he would be such a good partner/best friend/and step-dad to my daughter.
I’ve been trying to sort of psyche myself out about the hair recently.
Telling myself it’s a sweet thing… the hair is beautiful… hair is not scary… hair is soft and it’s comforting and etc…
Do you think that could work???? If I just sort of psychologically force my mind to embrace the hair?
LOL I know this sounds weird. But I did a google search with the words “can you make yourself fall in love with someone”. and your site turned up. Any feedback would be appreciated